Hairs of Discord: How I Lost My Instagram Account

On January 21, 2021, a photo I posted on Instagram went viral.

A picture of my pubic hair.

So simple, yet so… disturbing. Let’s just say that, out of everything I publish, I never thought I’d get famous for a pic of my pubes, but the message I wanted to convey definitely resonated with a huge amount of people. All I was trying to say was that it’s okay to have a human body that looks like a human body.

Here’s part of the caption that accompanied my photo:

In my post, I then go on about the extraordinary luck I have to be able to share my life, my ideas, my projects, and all my vulnerabilities with my partner, and that he encourages and supports me.

The importance of representation

In less than two weeks, the photo garnered nearly 15,000 likes, over 4,000 saves and shares, and over 500 comments. The caption has been translated into three languages. I received hundreds of private messages thanking me, telling me how much people, mostly women, needed to read a message like this and how grateful they were to me. I persisted in responding to each person that, on the contrary, it was I who was thankful for having the opportunity to develop a growing community that is open to my vulnerability.

I often talk about the importance of representation. My post is a perfect example.

Obviously, we need to discuss the “shocking” aspect of the photo.

Deconstructing what society has imposed on us takes time and a lot of work. This effort must go hand in hand with increased representation. What shocks us is simply what we aren’t “used to” seeing. We talk a lot about body hair, of course, but we never see it. And that’s a problem.

Simply stating that body hair is normal is not enough and it’s not the same thing as daring to show it—and you need to see it if you ever want to get used to it.

Getting used to seeing, having, owning, and loving body hair can be done by normalizing it through representation.

I invited people who were shocked by my photo (and who took the time to comment on it) to reflect on their reaction.

Did it arouse discomfort? Personal unease, feelings of awkwardness or uncertainty? A sense of modesty when it comes to Internet use? A desire for the application of a more conservative policy?

But why not be just as outraged at the sight of photos in which people’s body hair has been meticulously airbrushed? Is what is disturbing, then, simply the fact that the hair was pubic? No one dared to answer.

Sowing discord

It goes without saying that I received comments about my personal hygiene and about the “fact” that I’d never be able to find a partner. I was lucky that Dr Staci (@dr.staci.t on Instagram) supported me in her stories and in the comments, stating that hygiene and body hair actually go hand in hand: hair protects us. The misconception that body hair is unhygienic stems from popular media devoid of authentic bodies, from porn that childifies women, and, as the Abattoir Facebook page put it, stems directly from the diktats of men’s (cis and straight) sexual preferences being imposed on women’s bodies (these preferences are further influenced by dominant representations of female hairlessness in porn and popular media). That said, hair removal is a matter of personal choice.

I have also been accused of faux feminism. I am regularly disappointed by the lack of intersectionality of some people who identify as “feminist”. They seem to believe that by normalizing body hair, we discriminate against people who choose to shave. On the contrary, you do you, and all I ask is to be equally represented and have my choices respected: to also be able to feel like part of the norm.

It’s erroneous to believe that proudly keeping and showing our body hair is unfeminist. My feminism aspires to be inclusive, intersectional, open, ready to question what I believe, and always eager to point out the consequences of a capitalist patriarchy responsible for body shame. My feminism also includes active listening and the desire to continue to educate myself.

In the end, in my opinion, the purpose of representation is to validate all bodies and sexualities and to ensure that people no longer have negative knee-jerk reactions to topics that are so relevant to us all.

In the crosshairs of censorship

Much to my dismay, Instagram deleted my @leksendrine account. I have never received any warning that I was breaking any rules. Yet, I woke up one morning and, poof, all my work had been thrown in the trash.

I had made the mistake of responding to a hateful comment on my gender identity. The person said that they had no problem with body hair, but that we are all either men or women – nothing else – and that I was therefore a strong woman representing female body hair.

Then, a masculinist joined in, offering me money to go buy razors. I thought I was being funny by posting a link to my PayPal. A few minutes later, there were five of them posting comments, and I realized my mistake. Apparently it’s something masculinists and trolls do in their spare time; getting together and denouncing feminist/activist/etc. pages until they get shut down.

Well, they succeeded. They won.

I woke up the next morning with a message from Instagram: “Your page has been disabled”.

At the time, I felt defeated. On the other hand, it proved my point very well: that visual representation is more powerful and shocking than speech. So we win by investing in it, by creating the authentic content that we want to see. And I will try to regain access to my page and, meanwhile, continue to write and create.

18 days of waiting

As this article is about to be published, after 18 days of emails, complaints, and requests to those around me to file a complaint with Instagram because my account had been unjustly deactivated, I am finally back! My account has finally been reactivated. I won the battle, but definitely not the war on censorship, and I’m not done fighting for all the marginalized voices that get censored.

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